Pandora Blake is a pretty, brunette spanking model from the UK. She has appeared on many spanking sites including British spanking websites Northern Spankings and Bars and Stripes. Not only does she let us see her getting spanked in her scenes, but Pandora also writes about her thoughts and experiences in her excellent blog Spanked, Not Silenced and also her personal website Pandora’s Bot.
We caught up with Pandora in April 2010.
When was your first spanking? How did you get into it? What turned you on to it?
I’m going to have to answer these separately, I think. I don’t know what turned me on to spanking, but I know that fantasising about kinky stuff was one of my very first memories, and I was very aware of my secret desires all through my childhood. I was first turned on to spanking at a very young age. By the time I started school my guilty interest in it was already fully formed.
My first consensual spanking experience was actually as a top. When I was 13 my best friend was 15, and she and I used to fool around. We never dated, but there were lots of clandestine caresses after lights out. She preferred to play roleplay games – I guess she felt safer being in character than accepting that she might be bisexual or gay – and one night, one of our roleplays led to spanking. I initiated it and I put her over my knee. She let me smack her a few times, but she was very nervous in case her parents (who were asleep in the same house, would you believe!) overheard, so I stopped and let her up. I found it very hot, but at the same time I knew that what I wanted most was to be spanked myself.
I got my chance three years later. I was friends with a boy who liked me, but at that age I was pretty sure I was gay, so I’d told him nothing would happen. We talked a lot, and realised we shared a lot of interests – including spanking, bondage and other kinky stuff. We browsed anime and BDSM porn online and eventually he asked if I’d like to play sometime. I thought it over, and a few days later came back and said sure. I was so desperate to experiment, this seemed like the chance of a lifetime. He was my friend, and I trusted him. But I made very sure he understood it would be just as friends, because I didn’t have romantic feelings for him.
It turned out to be the most incredibly intense scene. We played a silence game I’d fantasised about. He whipped me with a riding crop and if I made a sound, I got two more strokes. The whipping eventually ended somewhere over a hundred when both of us had lost count. I was so aroused I could barely speak. We played again a couple of weeks later, and after that I accepted that I must be bisexual after all, and we got together. We had great fun for a couple of years, but split up amicably when I went to university.
I’ve just been reading your blog. You’re very frank and descriptive about your sexuality and lovemaking, and it’s very well-written indeed. The thing that leaps out at me from reading “About Me” is that you have 2 Doms. What’s it like having two Doms?
Thankyou! It’s lovely of you to say so.
Having two Doms – you know, I’m really not sure I can generalise. I imagine it’s totally different depending on who your partners are. It means I get to share my life with two different people who share different aspects of my interests and stimulate me in different ways. The two D/s dynamics are very different. They’re both very good for me, but I get different things from each of them.
It also means that if one of them is stressed or tired, I can lean on the other one for strength and patience to feed back to the person who needs it. And it means if one of them isn’t in the mood to spank me, I can always ask the other! The arrangement is founded on mutual trust, respect and lots of communication. We have an IRC channel just for the three of us, and we hang out and chat in there most days.
What do you mean by “feminist ethos” in your spanking films?
This is such a huge question I think I’m going to have to write a book on it someday! I’m trying to answer this question through my blog at the moment. Firstly, I think it’s about treating all your models, but especially male and female spankees, with dignity and respect. That means treating them like royalty during the shoot, and not calling them a “dirty whore” in the marketing for the films. It’s also about presenting kink and sexuality in a positive, affirming way – so no women being spanked for being “slutty”, or anyone being made to feel ashamed for their sexuality.
I’m trying to overturn some of what I see as sexist standards in the industry. Feminist spanking porn should focus on the female gaze – that’s what women are looking for in erotic material. It means sexy male tops and spankees, as well as sexy female ones. I want hunky male tops with voices that will take my breath away, and vulnerable boys who have beautiful spankable bottoms. For me, it also means writing scenarios with interesting, plausible stories, and characters who have developed personalities and aren’t just a bit of flesh. And most importantly, it means everyone involved in making it should have fun, should never be made to feel pressured or uncomfortable.
Some of the porn I want to make is very edgy and intense, so if I’m filming a very nasty non-consensual scenario, it can be difficult to communicate this ethos through the stories themselves. This is why blogging is so important, so that the models – this is especially important for submissive models – have a voice which transcends that of their mistreated character in the film. It makes the industry more transparent and helps everyone stay safer. And it means that even if you’ve just watched a nail-bitingly difficult scene, you can read the spankee’s version of events, and hear why they did it and what they got out of it. For me that’s a huge part of my enjoyment, especially with more violent scenes.
How did you become a spanking model? What was the first time like?
This is kind of a long story and I’ve actually already told it on my blog – do you mind if I link to that? The short version is that I started out doing nude modelling while I was a student. I already had a bit of experience of kink from playing with lovers, and after I’d done a bit of bondage modelling I was invited to do a simulated stills spanking shoot. I loved it, insisted on taking 6 real strokes of the cane, and have never looked back.
Do you have a high tolerance of pain? Do you bruise easily? What are your limits?
I’ve been told I have a pretty high tolerance. I tend not to enjoy a spanking unless I feel pushed, but my tolerance definitely changes from day to day. Some days the lightest of spankings will be a huge challenge – other days it feels like I can take it indefinitely. These days I don’t bruise easily, like most people who play regularly.
My limits would take a whole other essay to describe! One thing I never do with anyone is cunt punishment. In some ways I’m a bit of a pain slut, but my cunt is the one part of my body no-one is allowed to hurt.
How do you like to be spanked? What would be the perfect spanking?
It varies depending on the person and the day. I enjoy different things from different spankers. Right now, I would quite like a slow-paced, deep, erotic spanking. Very hard, very slow, with lots of caresses and murmured encouragement. Perhaps starting with hand and then moving on to my heavy leather paddle. I like earning the respect of my Dom by being brave and obedient, and then being taken to the next level and tested all over again.
Has your taste in spanking changed since you first got into it?
It’s definitely broadened since I started spanking modelling. I find most of the scenes I see in my work hot in one way or another, and I feel like my kink has expanded and stretched. It’s like the more you exercise that part of your brain, the more active it is. As I’ve grown up I’ve got better at identifying and enforcing my personal boundaries and not taking any shit from people, so every scene I play these days, I enjoy to the full. I feel like I’m getting kinkier as I get older, but thinking back to my childhood I was always pretty kinky!
Do you ever switch?
Not really. I switch sometimes on shoots, in certain contexts – playing the bullying prefect or angry older sister. I can’t manage to play a proper authority figure, although I might learn as I get older. I enjoy admiring the bodies of pretty men and women, and I definitely enjoy the physical act of spanking when I get the chance to do it. Psychologically, though, unless I’m acting I feel utterly silly and out of place whenever I try, so it doesn’t happen much.
I sometimes think that less corporal punishment happens than it used to, maybe in the future no-one will be into spanking. What do you think?
I actually think the opposite! My experience is that kink is becoming more common as it is better accepted and understood, not less. Whenever I speak to spankos who were punished at school there’s usually a conflict in them, a tension between the trauma of going through this humiliating, violent experience which they definitely didn’t consent to, and the confusing desire of being confronted with something they’d fantasised about. Consensual, kinky play is as different from non-consensual CP as good sex is from rape; I don’t think one is predicated on the other.
I predict that CP will remain in our collective imaginations for a very long time, and we will have a wealth of historical contexts to fantasise about long after our species has evolved beyond the point of thinking it’s okay to beat children. I hope future generations will be free to enjoy consensual kink without being haunted by the shadow of real abuse.
Whats in the future for Pandora?
Well, I’m hoping to launch my own tiny, pay-per-download spanking site this summer, although progress is being delayed at the moment by various things. That’s just going to be a very simple page, and I’ll continue working behind the scenes on the full members site, which will probably launch sometime next year.
After that – well, who knows? I’d like to continue modelling for a few more years at least, as I’ve got loads of scenarios I want to act out before I stop. I expect that eventually I’ll want to focus more on writing, production and editing, but at the moment that feels a long way off. I also hope to write a book or two at some point – there’s that one about feminism and spanking porn which needs writing, for a start! – but I haven’t given the plan much serious thought.
I hope my D/s relationships will stay strong and get deeper. I’ve thrived on living alone for the past few years, but there’s talk of my moving in with one of my boys sometime soon (I’m not telling which yet!). I wouldn’t be surprised if that means spanking became a much bigger part of my day to day life. The idea of having household rules and duties, and of being spanked every day regardless, is so thrilling and comforting, somehow. I’m looking forward to it.
For more of Pandora’s discussion on spanking and all things kinky, aswell as some previews of the scenes she’s appeared in, check out Pandora Blake’s Blog.